I Chronicles 29:11 "Thine, O LORD, is the greatness, and the power, and the glory, and the victory, and the majesty:for all that is in the heaven and in the earth is thine; thine is the kingdom, O LORD, and thou art exalted as head above all."

Thursday, March 13, 2008

Deep Thought Thursday: Your Kids and TV

This link has some interesting facts that I will now share with you all. (Click if you want to read the full article.)

It's about TVs in kids' bedrooms. And how it lowers their test scores, among other things. Here are some of the findings:

"Having a TV in the bedroom was linked to lower scores on standardized math, language, and reading tests in the third grade.

Researchers say the impact of the findings could be substantial, as more than 70 percent of U.S. children have a TV in their bedroom.

Excessive television viewing among children has been linked to a greater risk of obesity and violent behavior. Researchers say the long-term effects of television on academic achievement have been less clear."

But I think there is a much more compelling reason to not let kids have TVs in their rooms.

Psalm 101:2-3 "I will behave myself wisely in a perfect way. O when wilt thou come unto me? I will walk within my house with a perfect heart. I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me."

Our children do not have the fortitude or the sensibility to control themselves and turn off their TV if something offensive comes on. Especially when it's something they are curious about; like sex for instance. Or something scary.

We, as parents, are the protectors of our children. And even if we don't have full blown cable with all the disgusting things that can be seen there, it is a very real possibility that our children will glimpse something or hear something that is more than mildly inappropriate.

Many people watch questionable things on TV. Things that are on regular cable- NBC, ABC, CBS. Things they don't want their children to see. I am not so naive as to think that children (even those as young as ten) would not hide what they've seen on TV from their parents. Or hide movies their friends have given them and watch them when no one else is awake.

What is the purpose of a TV in a child's room? So you can have personal time with the hubby away from the kids? (What about being a family?) So you can watch sinful things, or questionable things and not have your children exposed? (What about your mind?) Even hows like CSI, that started out good, are now filled with sexuality. Other sitcoms portray husbands as dummies, or have people in sinful pre-marital situations, or hopping from one partner to the next.

What things are being ingrained in our children's minds when we let them have a TV in their room? Do we want them to adopt the ways of this world with the addictions to porn so rampant in young people? Or how about having the desire to be on a reality TV show someday? That will make a mother proud.

Proverbs 29:15 "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."

See that? A child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame. Children are self-indulgent by nature. They will not turn the channel when something "interesting" comes on TV. And if they are locked away in their bedroom, how will you know? Many children (myself included in my past) know when they are watching something inappropriate and have memorized the sounds from the hallway of when Mom and Dad are getting close by. They will then turn the channel to avoid being caught.

Not to mention the fact that it may cause them to feel independence. Their room becomes like a little apartment, their own little kingdom. They can avoid all dealings with their family, and they may begin to resent other controls you have in their life.

What are your thoughts? Do your children have a TV in their room, and seem unchanged by it? Is it Biblical to allow this? What sways your decision on this issue?


  • M.

    We don't have a TV in OUR bedroom, let alone our child's - we decided that is would be a deterrent to our own good communication, even though it might be nice to snuggle in bed and watch a movie.

    Our fears are similar to some things that you already wrote - we don't want her bedroom to be her own little home. We want (and have a right to) know what she is watching all the time, and a TV in her room is a TV I can't see all the time. I used to stay up and read under my covers when I was young, and she'll do the same I'm sure - and she'd surely stay up and watch TV if there was one available to her.

    Kids are prone to wander, just like we are, and have even less discernment...So I'd rather keep a TV "in the light" where I can see it, so that I can help her learn to discern according to God's word.

    Same thing with the internet...I will know when she is on it and what site she is on, and no computer will ever be put in her room. Not because I'm a control freak, but because I love her and want her to be safe physically, emotionally, and spiritually. One mis-step on the TV or the internet and a kid can have a mental image ingrained for life - I think boys are especially prone to that, as the Lord made them so visually driven, and we need to protect their little eyes.

    Thanks for the post...Praying for you all!

  • Janice

    So you had to use the one verse that rattles in my head when I am tempted to be an absentee mother for a while!

    So often, I am struggling with how much freedom do I let my children have, and when is their "alone time" in their rooms crossing over into seclusion from the family?!

    I have a family that is so routineless, that it is an impossibility to know one night a week we all will be home to do family night. It is like we have "family few minutes" throughout the week, and hopefully they might add up to a whole evening in the end!!

    Just the other day, we had lunch - all of us - together- at the table- and every child made a comment on how neat-unusual-weird it was!


  • Brenda

    Well, my children have a TV/VCR or TV/DVD combo in their rooms. They do not function as televisions. They are only there to watch the movies from their movie boxes. And even that doesn't happen much. They would rather be in the living room with us. But a person can only take so much children's videos. Ya know?

    There is SO LITTLE on television that I let them watch: some morning children's shows and a few things on PBS in the afternoons. Sometimes. We used to watch disney, nick, everything. I'm glad we have gotten away from it all. I think it has been better for them.

    And getting a cabinet with doors to hide the TV has REALLY helped. Out of sight. Out of mind.

    Now, what are the long term effects of children being exposed to hours and hours of the Golf Channel?

  • Brenda

    Oh, and while we're at it. Where are your computers????

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